Sometimes we don’t want to fix things because being broken gets us ATTENTION. But that attention costs us so much in our life. We heard so many times from our parents that once you will be married your husband will take you where ever you want to go, until then, you can’t travel alone. Our parents inbuilt this kind of sense in our minds since childhood. So actually women don’t really bother to be independent.
Financial independence has become a myth in our society for women. That’s one of the reason women are less enthusiastic to chase their dreams. Somebody else is going to fulfil their basic survival needs one day.
But what about the dreams? Are they gonna pay for our dreams too?
Well how many men are going to do that for their partners. may be very few…The answer for majority is simply No.
Being financially independent is powerful in itself. It is one of the thing which will make you wake up in the morning with the sense of achieving something big. You will become more stable in your life.
It will bring some challenges. This will make you feel more alive. We have seen so many examples of women being multitasking. we have seen our mothers in our childhood, they used to manage themselves, every other family member, feeding every member of the house and make it possible to convert a house into home within a blink of eye like a fairy.
Have they ever get rewarded for that? Give it a thought!
Always stand up for what you believe in. Don’t ever let anyone push you around.
Try to make a mental shift from victim to a survivor. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Negative feeling about your current situation won’t disappear miraculously. If you are finding it hard, go and examine your feelings with private therapy or some counselling services. But remember, your friends can always be a great therapist. While telling your grief and sadness, try to have fun around them, Try to talk about something positive and funny. This could be the most easiest way to get rid of your awful feelings temporarily. This temporary relief will help build your confidence and will give you power to fight back magically.
A financially independent women can allow herself to make decisions of her own life. whether you loose or win, it is always a win -win situation because here you are giving yourself a sense of risk which will bring experience to make it more right and worth onto next move.
When you learn from your own mistake, nobody can ever pull you down. You never know when life will take all back in matter of seconds. I still remember that day I was left with $20 in my pocket in an alien country. I was having nowhere to go. No food, No shelter, nothing at all. I knew somewhere in my mind that no matter how worst is this, it is going to be okay one day.
I believed in myself and moved on.
I realised the value of money that day. I never cared for money in my life, but few sleepless nights without money made me realised the value of it. That very day, I promised myself to work on my stabilities from now onwards. I never looked back and started making notes of every possible setback I could have being financially unstable.
Well, sometimes it gets so hard to manage, But if you believe and work hard, you can make it possible. Just breath and start again. I worked really hard to fulfil the promises I made to myself one day. It took me two years to finally understand and manage my financial insecurities.
Like women, men are also a very beautiful creation of god. But both the genders need to understand the worth of independence. Whether you live together or not, you have to have your own money.
Try this and see the glow on your faces.
Reward Yourself, Don’t wait for others.
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